When Romance Gets Creepy

Originally published at Absentminded Author, v1.

 





(Word balloons by Me)


I was going through a box of used books to bring to the library. Most were old Disney tie-in novels read & enjoyed long ago, but one of my daughters was discarding this winner. Apparently, it scared her off Romance books forever. Gee, I wonder why. He looks like a nice, honorable kinda guy.

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