Wednesday, July 04, 2012

Celebrating My Forgetfulness on the Fourth of July

Happy Fourth of July, Fellow Americans!

(For my non-American readers, I hope you have a happy fourth as well. You may not be celebrating it for the same reasons we may be, but why shouldn't your day be happy?)

4th of July Fireworks by deltaMike

As I sat there pondering what I would quickly write about today, then got distracted responding to a reply on Facebook, and as my sausages burned on the stove and filled my apartment with smoke, I thought, "Hey! I wonder if I ever wrote down any notes for future blog posts in my iBrain?"

What do ya know? I did! A reader named Dave wrote me one Spring to ask me about goal setting. And such a timely letter, too. I just wrote about goal setting the other day, and it's been only two years since I promised to share Dave's email. That's pretty good, all things considered.

I am 42 and was diagnosed with ADHD last year. I just stumbled on your blog while searching out ADHD advice. I appreciate your honesty about your life. Your way of thinking is a spitting image of my thinking. While being intelligent and creative, I have not been able to ‘grow’ a ‘career’. I viciously compare myself to other’s achievements and possessions and fall very short in my mind. The depression as a result is brutal. Is there a better way to live? What works and what does not? What do I do next? Any suggestions?
Dave (Submitted on May 9th, 2010 at 5:28am) 

What I do, Dave, is set a goal, then identify the obstacles. Then I try to get around the obstacles. I have to tune out the achievements of others or it will drive me crazy. The comparison is NEVER kind.

Inevitably, I will fail. That’s when I reset the goal, and re-identify the obstacles. Sometimes I need to break things down smaller and smaller until I can surmount my hurdles. Looking back, it appears that I leaped over them deftly, but I know the truth. I crawled under them!

This is a good comment. If I remember, I will dedicate a blog to it next week. Be sure to let me know if I forget! Haha… (so likely)
Douglas Cootey (Submitted on June 10th, 2010 at 4:22pm

Regrettably, Dave never remembered to remind me to share that with you. Ah, the blind leading the blind. At least I was right about one thing.

If you have a question for me, click on the "Contact Info" link in my footer, or right there since I just linked it for you. I promise to remember to reply. Maybe even this year.

Tomorrow I have a big techy blog ready for you. I also put up a poll on daydreaming for your input in the sidebar. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day. Meanwhile, I have some burnt sausage to bite through for lunch.


Update: The sausage was charred.